You are here for a reason and a purpose.  Embrace the process not just the purpose.

Our featured guest today is Ralph Graves Jr.

Ralph D. Graves Jr. serves as Founder and Senior Pastor of Cornerstone Community Church in Millville, NJ. Ralph Graves is a Motivational Speaker, Business Consultant and Author. He is the Founder and Vice President of City’s Hope Community Development Corporation and Founder of Project U. He is also a member of the National Speakers Association, National and Philadelphia chapters. In 2011, he retired as a Sergeant of Police after 20 years of dedicated service to the State of NJ.

Having been certified by the John Maxwell Team as a Coach, Speaker and Leadership trainer, Mr. Graves decided to pair up his newly acquired training with his business experience and create Project U: Executive Coaching & Leadership Multiplier. Project U offers customizable training programs, resources, and assessment tools that have proven to develop, improve, and multiply leadership through its unique Cornerstone System.

Ralph Graves has accomplished many endeavors, but nothing compares to his GREATEST accomplishment, being married to his high school sweetheart, his best friend, his wife Christine Graves for twenty-eight years. He and Christine together have three children and three grandchildren.





  • I’m grateful for life’s obstacles and life’s struggles because they’ve given me strength. Those struggles and those obstacles have allowed me to become the man that I am today. Without those struggles and obstacles, I wouldn’t be able to handle life.
  • I’m not wired for a traditional church leadership; I need to go out and make an impact on the community.
  • @RalphGravesJr Who am I?  I’m a retired police offer, church planter, author, motivational speaker, actor and I did a little modeling.
  • On protecting and preserving your mental health, @RalphGravesJr says: When you know that something Is not quite right and you’re feeling a little off, it’s important to recognize when you’re in trouble and deliberately surround yourself with the right people, the right environment, and the right culture.
  • You have some options.  Listen to the TrailBlazers Podcast or buy a book and be mentored by an author that you’ve never met. #mentorship
  • If we submit to the universe's system of success or universal laws, we’ll find success and feel better about ourselves.
  • If we try to operate against the laws of forgiveness, reciprocity or giving, we’re not going to succeed.
  • It’s a lifestyle:  Life is what you’ve got; style is how you live it!
  • Once you get in the flow of living in the lifestyle — the way it was set up with universal laws of success — you can make it.
  • 20 years in the police department and subsequent years doing motivational speaking prompted me to write my upcoming book, “Unstoppable!”
  • I’ve seen the universal laws of success work for and against some people.  How we live in them will determine our success.
  • The Law of Forgiveness says that “forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person but everything to do with us.”
  • Forgiveness helps us! We are killing ourselves holding on to some stuff that we should be letting go for our sake.
  • FORGIVE!  You don’t need to continue maintaining a relationship but release it; release them.
  • The law of habits says if you want to get rid of a bad habit, you must replace it with a good one.
  • Begin cultivating good habits, by developing a system for your life that enables you to do your best work during the best time of the day.
  • If you have to be fit for the work that you want to do. Taking care of your body is your responsibility.
  • Work with and work for what God has given you.
  • The only difference between us and who we want to be is  what we do with the 24 hours we’re given.
  • Take a stand against mediocrity!  Decide that you’re not going to be mediocre.
  • Going for the best for yourself, your family and your company, will require sacrifice.
  • Sacrifice means something has to die.  For everything you say “Yes” to you say “No” to something else.
  • It’s okay to say “No!”
  • Don’t believe the negative narrative about us, as Black men; write your own narrative.
  • You are here for a reason and a purpose.  Embrace the process not just the purpose.
  • You can come out of the situation but you have to rewrite the narrative.  You have to persevere.  You can’t give up!
  • Continue to make sure you’re in the right environments for success.
  • When you deal with cops, don’t escalate the situation.  Follow the process and file a report with Internal Affairs.
  • Life has a rhythm to it.  Find the rhythm, and you can be unstoppable!



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