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Ralph Graves, Jr: Discover The Keys to Being Unstoppable | 176

Ralph Graves, Jr: Discover The Keys to Being Unstoppable | 176

You are here for a reason and a purpose.  Embrace the process not just the purpose.

Our featured guest today is Ralph Graves Jr.

Ralph D. Graves Jr. serves as Founder and Senior Pastor of Cornerstone Community Church in Millville, NJ. Ralph Graves is a Motivational Speaker, Business Consultant and Author. He is the Founder and Vice President of City’s Hope Community Development Corporation and Founder of Project U. He is also a member of the National Speakers Association, National and Philadelphia chapters. In 2011, he retired as a Sergeant of Police after 20 years of dedicated service to the State of NJ.

Having been certified by the John Maxwell Team as a Coach, Speaker and Leadership trainer, Mr. Graves decided to pair up his newly acquired training with his business experience and create Project U: Executive Coaching & Leadership Multiplier. Project U offers customizable training programs, resources, and assessment tools that have proven to develop, improve, and multiply leadership through its unique Cornerstone System.

Ralph Graves has accomplished many endeavors, but nothing compares to his GREATEST accomplishment, being married to his high school sweetheart, his best friend, his wife Christine Graves for twenty-eight years. He and Christine together have three children and three grandchildren.

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KEY POINTS FROM RALPH:

  • I’m grateful for life’s obstacles and life’s struggles because they’ve given me strength. Those struggles and those obstacles have allowed me to become the man that I am today. Without those struggles and obstacles, I wouldn’t be able to handle life.
  • I’m not wired for a traditional church leadership; I need to go out and make an impact on the community.
  • @RalphGravesJr Who am I?  I’m a retired police offer, church planter, author, motivational speaker, actor and I did a little modeling.
  • On protecting and preserving your mental health, @RalphGravesJr says: When you know that something Is not quite right and you’re feeling a little off, it’s important to recognize when you’re in trouble and deliberately surround yourself with the right people, the right environment, and the right culture.
  • You have some options.  Listen to the TrailBlazers Podcast or buy a book and be mentored by an author that you’ve never met. #mentorship
  • If we submit to the universe's system of success or universal laws, we’ll find success and feel better about ourselves.
  • If we try to operate against the laws of forgiveness, reciprocity or giving, we’re not going to succeed.
  • It’s a lifestyle:  Life is what you’ve got; style is how you live it!
  • Once you get in the flow of living in the lifestyle — the way it was set up with universal laws of success — you can make it.
  • 20 years in the police department and subsequent years doing motivational speaking prompted me to write my upcoming book, “Unstoppable!”
  • I’ve seen the universal laws of success work for and against some people.  How we live in them will determine our success.
  • The Law of Forgiveness says that “forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person but everything to do with us.”
  • Forgiveness helps us! We are killing ourselves holding on to some stuff that we should be letting go for our sake.
  • FORGIVE!  You don’t need to continue maintaining a relationship but release it; release them.
  • The law of habits says if you want to get rid of a bad habit, you must replace it with a good one.
  • Begin cultivating good habits, by developing a system for your life that enables you to do your best work during the best time of the day.
  • If you have to be fit for the work that you want to do. Taking care of your body is your responsibility.
  • Work with and work for what God has given you.
  • The only difference between us and who we want to be is  what we do with the 24 hours we’re given.
  • Take a stand against mediocrity!  Decide that you’re not going to be mediocre.
  • Going for the best for yourself, your family and your company, will require sacrifice.
  • Sacrifice means something has to die.  For everything you say “Yes” to you say “No” to something else.
  • It’s okay to say “No!”
  • Don’t believe the negative narrative about us, as Black men; write your own narrative.
  • You are here for a reason and a purpose.  Embrace the process not just the purpose.
  • You can come out of the situation but you have to rewrite the narrative.  You have to persevere.  You can’t give up!
  • Continue to make sure you’re in the right environments for success.
  • When you deal with cops, don’t escalate the situation.  Follow the process and file a report with Internal Affairs.
  • Life has a rhythm to it.  Find the rhythm, and you can be unstoppable!

 

THIS EPISODE WAS SPONSORED BY:

The Campaign for Black Male Achievement. Join, support and invest in this movement to help improve the life outcomes of our black men and boys.

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Stephen Chandler: Begin to See God As A Non-Negotiable | 175

Stephen Chandler: Begin to See God As A Non-Negotiable | 175

Discover how we can develop the routine and habits that will help us prioritize and grow as Christians.

Our featured guest today is Stephen Chandler.

Stephen Chandler is the bold, encouraging, life-giving Senior Pastor of Destiny Church.

Since its inception in 2011, Destiny Church has grown to a community of thousands of people and is known for its exciting culture and focus on leading entire families to a passionate relationship with God. Stephen has a passion to see people discover their God-given destiny, and has given his life to help others find fulfillment.

Stephen and his wife Zai reside in Columbia, Maryland with their two beautiful children Zoe and Roman.

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  • I’m grateful for the team that is around me: my wife and my kids
  • My wife and my kids are my biggest source of joy ever
  • With my staff: I never realized there are people that can care about your vision as much as you do!
  • I’m a Bajan Yankee: I was born in Baltimore to Bajan parents (Barbados).
  • I eat like a Caribbean and talk like an American
  • I play soccer and I also play basketball
  • When I say I was born in the church: I was born on a Sunday, my dad was preaching and my mom’s water broke.
  • I grew up in a small church in Baltimore: playing drums, playing bass, playing guitar, student ministry
  • It was around age sixteen when church wasn’t something I was dragged to, but passionate about
  • I remember at sixteen, I stumbled across Jeremiah [spp-timestamp time="29:11"], and it exploded in my heart. I realized I was not a mistake
  • What drives me: the fact that so many people feel invisible. So many people don’t realize that they’re not a mistake.
  • There is something God has placed inside of you that the world needs
  • God has something unique that He has called you to do
  • My goal is to help people connect to Jesus
  • Whenever you blaze a trail, you go a path that hasn’t been gone before, which means people are not going to understand what you are doing until you break out into whatever clearing you’re going to
  • I had to sacrifice having cheerleaders in my corner, and people that understand and really believed in what I was doing
  • The basis of habit is really what you value. What you value you’ll find time for and you’ll put systems in your life to make those happen.
  • We eat cause we know we’ll pass out if we don’t. I would say we sleep, but in our overachiever world, we don’t until we realize sleep is a necessity.
  • It starts with us seeing our relationship with God, not as an addition, but as our source.
  • I will never make as much money as I can, if God is not my source. My business will never become as great as it could, if God is not my source. My career and my marriage won’t get as far….
  • People think that God is a religious thing, God is a LIFE thing. See him as your source.
  • You’ve got to see God as a non-negotiable
  • When do you have the most energy? Spend 15 minutes, read one verse and thank God for His presence in your life
  • One thing to understand about the Bible, is that it applies to EVERY area of your life.
  • Find the areas of your life you’re not satisfied in: go figure out what God says about that
  • What do you want your kids to become? Dive in and find out about what God wants for them
  • Learn to talk to yourself! I just find that the great leaders determine the soundtrack of their lives
  • Satan is the enemy of ALL humanity. He’s constantly whispering in people’s ear that they can’t accomplish what God’s laid on their heart.
  • Satan can’t curse you, but he can get you to curse yourself by speaking things of negativity or worry.
  • You must begin to speak positively over your life: “There is a client out there set apart for me. The world needs what I have to offer”
  • What you say about you. What God says about you …. It will come to pass!

 

THIS EPISODE WAS SPONSORED BY:

The Campaign for Black Male Achievement. Join, support and invest in this movement to help improve the life outcomes of our black men and boys.

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Dr. Mildred Peyton’s Journey As A Bullying Expert | 151

Dr. Mildred Peyton’s Journey As A Bullying Expert | 151

Dr. Mildred Peyton is a bullying survivor, expert, and a children’s author of two books, A Bully on the School Bus and Sophia Writes To Her Bully. Despite having a Ph.D. in Human and Social Services (with a concentration in Social Policy Analysis & Planning), a Bachelor's degree in Social Work and Sociology and a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology, she still experienced bullying firsthand both on the job and in her role as a mother trying to protect her children.

As an expert on bullying, she speaks from her heart and real-world experience. She knows the denial, pain, frustration, embarrassment, guilt, and sometimes even downright rage that consumes you when you or someone you love is being taken advantage of. Dr. Peyton guides her clients as a consultant and trainer through the process of joining her on the other side of establishing and maintaining a safe and healthy workplace and school environment to ensure greater success for all. Also included in her work, she provides one-on-one guidance to parents, students, and employees who are experiencing bullying and harassment.

Lastly, Dr. Peyton's doctoral research study entitled, Exploring the Meaning of School Bullying Among Parents of Victimized Children, along with hands-on educational training in facilitating focus groups and mentoring programs for students experiencing bullying and harassment are among some of her work which has demonstrated her commitment to cultivating safer schools and helping students. As for workplaces, Dr. Peyton's personal experience working in a toxic work environment inspired her to support and work with employers in creating and maintaining healthy workplace atmospheres where all employees will feel valued and respected.

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Black Men and Boys Matter | 143

Black Men and Boys Matter | 143

BLACK MEN AND BOYS MATTER. They are assets to our communities and our country. As a nation, we cannot truly prosper when any group of people is excluded and forced to exist on the fringes of society. The well-being of Black men and boys has a direct influence on the strength of our families, communities and our nation as a whole.

2018 MARKS THE 10TH ANNIVERSARY of the Campaign for Black Male Achievement (CBMA).

Launched in 2008 as a three-year initiative at the Open Society Foundations, CBMA became independent in 2015, stretching the initiative’s original three-year term limit into a decade of accelerating investments in Black men and boys to unprecedented levels.

To build beloved communities across America, where Black men and boys are healthy, thriving and enabled to achieve their fullest potential — this is CBMA’s core mission and rallying cry. There is much to acknowledge in the organization’s decade-long efforts to generate more than $320 million in investment for Black men and boys, while sparking the tremendous growth of an entire field dedicated to Black male achievement to support improved life outcomes for all young men of color.

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