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Building Your Mental Strength with Karen M Allen | 206

Building Your Mental Strength with Karen M Allen | 206

Dealing with an internal struggle? Are you mentally exhausted? Needing some motivational #missionfuel to help you build your #mentalstrength so you can manage your emotions and thoughts in 2020 with all that's going on?

Joining me today for this special episode is a dear friend and a past guest of the podcast, Karen Millsap Allen.

Karen was first on the podcast back on episode 118.

In case you hadn’t yet heard that episode, let me just share this before we dive into this conversation – At age 29, Karen became a widow, when her husband Richard was tragically killed. She lost her house, her car, her job and so much more. She was devastated, angry, and stressed, as I imagine most of us would be going through a season like that. But Karen refused to be defeated. Karen’s life is in so many ways, a case study in how to develop mental stamina. She’s a single mom on a mission.

Karen is a speaker, author, strategist, coach, advisor to people-focused organizations. She thrives on giving people the tools they need to have a healthy mindset and mental strength training habits.

And so with 2020 dishing each of us a ton of anxiety, devastation, loss, and so many other ‘feels', I wanted to have this conversation with Karen, 1) to help me talk through what these last 8 months of being silent on the podcast was like behind the scenes and what I had to do to get myself right so I could resume the show and 2) I wanted us to discuss just how we can all work on building our mental strength in order to do the legacy work we are trying to get done.

My ask today is that you’d help share this episode. If you're posting to social, please tag @tbpod @stephenahart and use the hashtag #TrailblazersFM #MissionFuel

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Karen's Actionable:

Embrace the challenges, embrace the chaos, embrace change, embrace life. Learn how to flow with it, and learn to release any shame. Ask yourself – Who do you want to be in the world? Allow the answer to that question to help guide you through the challenges, chaos and changes.

 

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Rochelle Gapere: Why Happiness? | 183

Rochelle Gapere: Why Happiness? | 183

Happiness is a choice! It is an overarching quality of life that is rich in a variety of emotions, even including stress, sadness and disappointment.

Our featured guest today is Rochelle Gapere.

Rochelle Gapere is an Attorney, Happiness Coach and Entrepreneur. Known for bringing her charismatic personality and sheer joy for living to every experience and individual she encounters, Rochelle has mastered the art of living life fully and passionately. The release of her Amazon bestselling book, One Happy Thought at a Time: 30 Days to a Happier You, cements her lifelong practice of adding more happiness to this world by empowering others with science-based tools and techniques that help them lead happier, more fulfilling lives. Rochelle believes in living a life that is engaging at every level and utilizes practical techniques to teach audiences her unique approach to living a happy life.

Rochelle describes herself as an “Attorney by trade and Happiness Coach by heart.” Rochelle earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology from Tennessee State University, graduating Summa Cum Laude. She graduated with a Juris Doctorate from the University of Miami School of Law in 2005. In 2018, she earned a Positive Psychology Specialization Certification through the University of Pennsylvania.

My ask today is that you’d help share this episode. If you're posting to social, please tag @tbpod and use the hashtag #TrailblazersFM and #missionfuel

KEY POINTS FROM ROCHELLE:

  • I’m grateful for the journey in this last year of my life.  I didn’t imagine how a closed door could propel me into my purpose.
  • Growing up, I remember feeling anything I wanted was possible.  I remember being absolutely fearless, and that my dreams were so huge, and there was no “no!”
  • I operated from a place of “if I work hard enough I can do anything I want.”
  • You may not always know what you’re going to do or the next steps to take, but if you know the overarching theme or feeling that you want from your life, then you know you move in that direction.
  • Pursue the things that align with your values.
  • I had tunnel vision in the pursuit of my goals.
  • … because we are always tasked with solving other people’s problems, we typically don’t tell people that we’re having problems.
  • One area of my life being bad doesn’t mean my entire life is bad.  I have my health, family, friends, a job, and I woke up this morning and my heart beats.
  • You’re not the only one going through your season, and others have gone through it and survived.
  • Most businesses are successful because of their employees. So, the happier an employee is, the more loyal they’ll be to the business.
  • If you go to work everyday and you feel valued, that your voice is being heard and you have a safe space to articulate your concerns, then you want to be there and you have a more vested interest in showing up everyday for your employer.
  • Employers, remember that your employees are human.  Implement kindness practices into the workplace.
  • The minute you transform your brain into an action-oriented mindset on how you could become better for having gone through challenges, you are empowered.
  • Disappointments are inevitable.  How would you grow, if everything went your way?
  • Vulnerability is bravery.
  • You can’t fix what you don’t confront.
  • I absolutely believe that the first couple minutes of your day, sets the entire tone for your day.
  • Too many of us are waking up and rolling over and picking up our phones, looking on our email, looking on Facebook. We are allowing people's messaging and energy to come into our environment before allowing ourselves to set the tone for our day.
  • I'm very very very very particular about 1) Waking up – 3 new things that you're grateful for everyday. People say how am I going to find 3 new things? You can! You could start by just thanking God for the things in your body – your nose, your taste, your cells. There are a plethora of things to be grateful for.
  • But then also, I believe in the power of meditation. Just being still. 2 minutes, 3 minutes – build up a meditation practice. And the next thing that I think, is to set your intentions. What do you want your day to look like? Literally imagine it – when you walk in your office, imagine how you want to feel. What do you want to accomplish?
  • And I tell people use the time that you have in your morning wisely. You're in the shower. If you are a Believer pray! Say affirmations. Hype yourself up.
  • By the time I leave my house in the morning, I am so hype, that no matter what the world throws at me I've already set my intention so clearly: I'm going to have a good day. I'm grateful. I'm going to work. I'm going to conquer this day. And so I'm so clear on what it is that I want my day to look like.
  • This is a daily practice and it's interesting because the days when I don't do it, I do feel off kilter. I'm just like fluttering around, like a bird without wings. 
  • You have to put yourself first. You can't pour from an empty tank. When you serve people from your overflow, you are better and they are better, because you're giving them the best of yourself. So if you can't give yourself 10 minutes in the morning just to get your mind right, I don't know what else to tell you.
  • Start now!  Start right now!  You don’t need to plan anything else.  Start the business right now.  Buy the URL on GoDaddy.  You don’t need to sit and write the 50-page business plan.  Build the momentum.  When you get small wins it gives you the momentum for bigger wins.
  • You don’t have to figure out the entire story before you take the first step.
  • So many of us delay our goals because of preparation, but really it’s fear.  You want to prepare and prepare but it will never be perfect.
  • Stop succumbing to people’s opinions about your plans and your dreams.
  • Start on the dream today.  So many people die with so much goodness inside them because they were waiting for this opportune, perfect moment.

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Craig The Barber®: Finding Balance in Your Passion | 182

Craig The Barber®: Finding Balance in Your Passion | 182

Know your why! Why are you passionate about what you're passionate about? And why do you want to make that a career?

Today's guest was one of those people who inspired me to launch Trailblazers.FM and was one of our very first conversations on the podcast back on on episode 7. Today, we spoke with Craig The Barber.

Craig the Barber is Hollywood’s top source for men’s grooming needs, a role he has held for more than 10 years. But the true story is that Craig unknowingly began his journey toward becoming a master barber all the way back at the age of 14 years-old. Craig’s belief that being a well-groomed man does not mean going overboard and that any guy can take charge of his style and appearance with the right guidance.

Craig is a true example of how following one’s passion will lead you to never “work” a day in your life because you will always love what you do. As he says himself, “Life is meant to be lived, not worked!”

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KEY POINTS FROM CRAIG:

  • @Craig the Barber: Hard work yields tough times, but it also yields great times.
  • When you’re nurturing and growing your passion, you sometimes forget to eat and forget to pay attention to people around you.
  • I read a very alarming statistic not too long ago in marriage.com and it stated that the entrepreneur divorce rate is 5 or 10% higher than the regular one. If we take that divorce rate in the United States, which is about 38%, that would mean that the entrepreneur divorce rate varies between 43 and 48%. That is 2% short of 50% and that is pretty scary stuff. The fact that something so well intended, something that you love and that fulfills you so much could be so damaging to the people around you and you know, whether you're married or not. I think you can really equate the experiences of loving something so much that neglect is placed in other areas, whether it's your child, whether it's your friendships, your relationship with your parents and just isolating yourself and really really pouring yourself into this passionate career goal can be very dangerous.
  • Three (3) tips to help you find balance in your passion:  (1) Know your why; (2) Maintain laser focus; and (3) Staff your weaknesses.
  • Sometimes passions should be hobbies, so know your “why
  • Know your why! Why are you passionate about what you're passionate about? And why do you want to make that a career? Sometimes passions should primarily just be hobbies. Sometimes passions are shaped by outside factors. It could be sometimes ego, it could be your parent shaping you or shaping your vision. It could be wanting specifically the ability to make a lot of money. You know, when you can really challenge yourself as to why you're wanting to move into this direction of a passionate career path, just make sure that you can give it a very valuable litmus test to see how much you really are passionate about it, because this journey and many entrepreneurs out there can speak and chime in with this or give a head nod to this, is that it's not easy. When the going gets tough, do you run away or grind harder?
  • I’m addicted to the results for the people I’ve helped.  It keeps me getting up in the morning.
  • The ups and downs challenge and check me; but because I know my why, I’m sound with my vision and focus.
  • Success is the total picture; so finding balance in everything across the board is far more important than the success of your career.
  • Always be comfortable with saying, “no.” @WarrenBuffet.  When you say, “no,” they want you more.
  • Know where your passion lies, and test it with every decision that you make.  It will save you so much time and energy.
  • Our value, in the short time we have, is in what we make of our lives and what we’re able to give to others.
    Hit us up right now on twitter @stephenahart @tbpod and tell me your fav tip from today's episode.

     

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    Concita Thomas: 3 Easy Food Changes To Become More Consistent With Healthy Eating | 179

    Concita Thomas: 3 Easy Food Changes To Become More Consistent With Healthy Eating | 179

    When we bet on later, everybody loses because later is not guaranteed.

    The second week of our 2019 summer Trailblazers Masterclass series welcomes back Concita Thomas. Concita is a returning guest of Trailblazers.FM and was first featured on episode 66. In today's episode Concita shares 3 easy food changes to become more consistent with healthy eating.

    Concita Thomas is a Food & Fitness Strategist behind ConcitaThomas.com. She is on a mission to help busy women on the go, gain freedom from being overweight and unfit while avoiding diet traps and fitness obsessions. She helps by sharing easy to stick to food and fitness strategies, sprinkled with a healthy dose of encouragement and inspiration. 

    Concita is a Jersey girl living in Dallas, Texas with her husband, son and daughter. When she isn’t coaching, writing, or spending time with her family, you can find her reading and sipping on a great cup of coffee.  

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    KEY POINTS FROM CONCITA:

    • Don’t bet on later!  Don’t let your health, wellness and fitness be the proverbial ‘can' you’re just kicking down the road.
    • When we bet on later, everybody loses because later is not guaranteed
    • Trailblazers who are crushing it can be even more effective if we're doing it from a place of optimal health.
    • 2 common challenges for those of us pursuing optimal health:  (1) I know I’m eating too much; and (2) I know I’m eating the wrong thing.
    • The first easy and simple change you can make to become consistent with healthy eating is to drink enough water every day. 
    • Drinking enough water can boost productivity, erase false hunger and increase your energy. @ConcitaThomas 
    • Even the least bit of dehydration has a dramatic effect on productivity.
    • Aim to drink up to half of your body weight in water in ounces daily, i.e. 200 lbs = 100 oz.
    • The second easy and simple change you can make to become consistent with healthy eating is to eat your vegetables.
    • Eat 3 servings of green vegetables per day.
    • Did you know?  Getting enough fibre by eating your vegetables helps to combat a sweet tooth.
    • A green smoothie in the morning for breakfast and a big ol’ salad for lunch are 2 easy ways to get vegetables into your diet.
    • The third easy and simple change you can make to become consistent with health eating is to include protein in your meals.
    • You can win the fight to be more consistent with healthy eating:  Drink water, eat your vegetables and include protein in your meals.
    • It’s not about what you take away from your diet, but what you add.  Add water; add greens; add protein.
    • Join the free support group for women at www.concitathomas.com/becomeafiercefriend
    Hit me up right now on twitter @stephenahart @tbpod and tell me your fav tip from Concita

     

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    The Campaign for Black Male Achievement. Join, support and invest in this movement to help improve the life outcomes of our black men and boys.

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    Chazz Scott: 7 Tips to Master Your Mind and Obtain Mental Peace | 178

    Chazz Scott: 7 Tips to Master Your Mind and Obtain Mental Peace | 178

    People love to love life when life feels good. But when life sucks, what are you going to do to overcome that struggle, in order for you to provide for your mind, body and soul?

    The first guest of our 2019 Trailblazers Masterclass Series is Chazz Scott. Chazz is a returning guest of Trailblazers.FM and was first featured on episode 135.

    Charles (Chazz) Scott is a published writer, motivational speaker, self empowerment workshop curator, and an accomplished computer security technologist from Ellicott City, Maryland. He holds both a Bachelor’s of Science degree in Computer Science and a Master’s of Science degree in Cyber Security from Hampton University.

    Chazz is the Founder & Chief Creative Optimist of Positively Caviar, Inc. based in the Baltimore-Washington metropolitan area. Positively Caviar, Inc. is a 501(c)(3) that focuses on empowering, inspiring, and motivating all human beings, with a special emphasis on youth, to instill mental resilience by way of positive thinking. His team travels across the Mid-Atlantic delivering high-intensity speaking engagements and hosting their signature BUILD Self-Empowerment workshops that are designed to understand and apply the secrets and science behind the human mind.

    When Chazz is not eradicating negativity, he is hunting hackers as a full-time Cyber Security Engineer at the National Geospatial-Intelligence Agency defending our Nation’s Cybersecurity infrastructure and satellites.

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    KEY POINTS FROM CHAZZ:

    • I have started a non-profit 501(C)3 organization based in the Metropolitan, DC-Baltimore area with a number of friends.  The mission is really to instill resilience by way of intentional positive thinking.
    • Our mission statement is to instill mental resilience to equip minds with knowledge and to empower lives to overcome adversity
    • We focus on empowering, inspiring and motivating all human beings, with a special emphasis on youth, to instill mental resilience
    • Our team travels around the mid-Atlantic area, delivering high-intensity speaking engagements, hosting our signature B.U.I.L.D. self-empowerment workshops which stands for Being Unique Individuals while Learning and Developing
    • These workshops are designed to understand and apply the secrets and science behind the human mind
    • Our fun and interactive workshops are science-centric, informative and introduce youth to the importance of optimism, understanding their emotions, decision-making and well-being
    • Going through school, going through troubles and adversity and obstacles in my life, I started to realize that I needed something to overcome obstacles.
    • I needed tools; I needed strategies; I needed something because I founded out that when things started happening I did not understand how to control my emotions.
    • The mind is all. Mental health affects all of us.
    • In order for you to master your mind, you must get a grip of it.
    • Life can be hard but when life is good, you seem as if you can do anything.
    • I focus on instilling mental resilience and mental toughness, in order for you to overcome those struggles, and in order for you to continue to attain your highest self.
    • People love to love life when life feels good, but when life sucks what are you going to do to overcome that struggle in order for you to continue to provide for your mind, body and soul, your family and friends, and in your work life with your colleagues?
    • I need to prepare my mind internally, in order for me to have influence externally.
    • It’s all about increasing your percentages, in order for you to achieve your desired outcome.
    • When tough times arise, how do you overcome?
    • There is strong scientific research that explicitly states that optimism is at the centre of mental toughness and resilience.
    • Positive thinking is a life strategy.
    • Whatever you’re attracted to is what you believe.  Whatever you believe is what you’re attracted to.
    • Every time I’m hit with something that hurts or I’m in pain or suffering, I continue to think as if the glass is half full rather than half empty.
    • I’m trying to give individuals knowledge, so they can make better decisions in their lives.
    • National Science Foundation put out a study and they said research confirms that the average human has 60,000 thoughts running through their heads everyday.  86% of those thoughts are considered negative, and many of those thoughts are considered repetitive.
    • We put a lot of stress and negative self-talk on ourselves naturally.  It’s innate.  It’s already in us.
    • We must develop strategies and tools in order for you to have positive self-talk in our lives.
    • It’s a war.  Every single day that you wake up in the morning, it’s a war within your mind.
    • In order for you to attain mental peace, you must start your journey.
    • You may have to battle some fears, self-doubt and insecurities, but you have to start your journey.
    • Clarity is power.
    • Thoughts are things.  We become what we think about all day.
    • If your thoughts have an influence on matter, imagine how your thoughts have an influence over the genetic structure of your body.
    • Thoughts => Actions => Habits => Character => Destiny
    • In order for you to have influence on your actions, you have to have positive thoughts.
    • Positive thoughts breed positive actions; positive actions breed positive habits; positive habits influences your character which influences your destiny.
    • The conversation that you have as soon as you wake up in the morning is the most important conversation that you will ever have with anybody on this entire planet.
    • Be mindful of your self-talk.  What are you saying to yourself when times are hard?
    • Life is about intention, attention and attitude.
    • Research shows that optimists are healthier physically and mentally and optimists live longer than pessimists.
    • Repetition and consistency are the pathways to instil resilience, mental toughness and new habits
    • “Constant repetition is the path to progression,” Nipsey Hustle
    • You have more influence over your genes than your parents have given you.
    • 7 Tips to Master Your Mind and Attain Mental Peace
      • (1) Know what you want and where you want to go, but also be grateful for your journey.
      • But you’ve got to write it down, because clarity is power.
      • Say it. Think it. Write it down. When you do all these three the universe will not deny the things that you want in your.
      • Wherever your focus goes, your energy flows, so what you appreciate appreciates.
      • (2) Know your why, and choose the path of most resistance.
      • There are two conversations that are happening in your head, and you must listen to the one that says, “I think I can.  I think I can!”
      • With friction comes confidence and new neurological pathways to create.
      • (3) Become conscious of the conversations that exist in your head. It’s a direct reflection of how the universe responds to you and how the opportunities are presented to you in your life.
      • (4) Food should be your medicine and medicine should be your food.
      • The type of food that you eat have a direct effect on the decisions that you make.
      • (5) Bury your fears. Your brain does not care about anything but keeping you alive.
      • Fear does not prevent death, it prevents life.
      • Take small wins.
      • Start putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, it give you self-confidence in order for you to become your higher self.
      • (6) Pay attention to who you associate yourself with.
      • Meaningful relationships keep us happier and healthier.
      • You are the average of the 5 people you associate yourself with.
      • Begin looking at your relationships as if those people are adding to or subtracting years from your life.
      • (7) Find a morning routine.  Be proactive not reactive.
      • Life is about moment.  You must wake up in the morning and find your momentum.
      • Feed your mind, body and soul early in the morning in order to create momentum into your day and for you to attack life with everything that you’ve got.
    • Change comes from either pain or passion.
    • Find your will to crush your goals to achieve your highest self.
    • As you confront the world, unrealistic optimism can be the life vest that keeps you afloat.
    • If you can master your brain, you can master your reality.
    • Your life will move in the direction of your words and thoughts.  Speak victory not defeat.
    • You only have 86,400 seconds in the day, and you must schedule it out.
    • You have all the power to attain your goals.
    • Bury all the self-doubt, fear and insecurities in order for you to attack life and  increase the percentages of your desired outcome.
      Hit us up right now on twitter @stephenahart @tbpod and tell me your fav tip from Chazz

       

      THIS EPISODE WAS SPONSORED BY:

      The Campaign for Black Male Achievement. Join, support and invest in this movement to help improve the life outcomes of our black men and boys.

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